Sex Positivity and Spirituality: Polar Opposites or More Compatible Than You Think?

Religion (of any type) has had a greater influence on sexuality than most other customs or cultural norms. Religion has often dictated who one can have sex with, when one can have sex, and what consequences occur when exploring sex outside these boundaries.

Think about it for a moment. Have you ever felt ashamed of your sexual desires and fantasies? Do sex and spirituality exist on opposite ends of the spectrum for you? If this isn’t serving your value and physical worth anymore, these core beliefs can be shifted and explored. You’re not trapped to any belief that guilts or criticizes who you are.

Now, if you aren’t sure exactly what it means to be sex-positive, it generally means that within the confines of informed consent, your sexual preferences are a personal choice. It doesn’t necessarily imply that you should be having wild, crazy sex all the time nor does it suggest that abstinence is condemnable. Sex positivity means you have the power to decide what honors you, then act accordingly.  It is about embracing sexuality as an important part of who you are, maintaining a healthy attitude towards sex, and recognizing and valuing your needs. Remember that you are allowed to change - the way you thought years ago may not be aligned with who you are today. Allow yourself the flexibility to expand, create new truths, and release outdated beliefs.

Even within different religious sects, views of sexuality can vary widely. Mainstream western religions are often credited with having a negative opinion of sexuality, under the notion that lustful, sexual thoughts are impure and a distraction from one's spiritual life. The human body has been linked to lowness; since sexuality is a physical experience, it’s been drenched in demeaning connotations suggesting that one should move away from the body and towards the spirit. On the other hand, Eastern religions tend to favor a more open view of sexuality with the belief that orgasm is a transcendental experience. Sex is positioned as a catalyst towards spiritual clarity, not as a blockage to it.

The point to emphasize here is that you have the ability to decide which set of beliefs (if any) support your self-worth and integrity. Notice which make you feel celebrated and which make you feel berated. Remember that not everyone's truths are the same. Choose the ones that are most aligned with you, and know that you can always change it later on. While the role of religion may always play an integral part of sexuality, many religions may not be as incompatible with sex positive thinking as many may think.

Sex and Religion can come together in a positive manner. By empowering your sexuality and listening to your heart, you create a belief system that protects you and uplifts you. Taking the time to know yourself and your boundaries is a powerful and beautiful way to enlighten your truths and guide your spirituality. Your body and your spirit are valuable, otherwise you wouldn’t be both. One of the gifts of our humanity is learning how to navigate it compassionately, this includes our sexuality. Honor both, listen to both, and create a compatibility between the two. Remember both are here to support you, not shame you. You are a powerful creator - begin creating beliefs that truly acknowledge your needs and respects them.

While we may not all agree with the sexual doctrines created by religion, there is a general acknowledgement that sex is meant to be enjoyed and is a crucial part of our well-being.  The door is open for conversations around sex positivity and faith. Check in with yourself and begin molding a faith that values your body and your spirit.

You have questions; we have answers.  If the conversations around sex and faith trigger you, let’s chat. Deep-rooted resistance is like a red flag; it’s an opportunity to notice what is coming up for you and begin supporting all of you, not just parts of you. Contact The Sex Summit today for a free consultation at


Debbie & Patty